The topic of LDS modesty for girls has been a hot one at church lately. While we only have a handful of teenage girls in our branch, their dress seems to be causing some individuals’ concern. As a matter of fact, Tony and I have had a couple of somewhat heated (more like snappy) conversations about Bethany’s wardrobe over the past month or so.
I do not enjoy shopping for clothes for my daughter. While I completely agree with LDS modesty standards, I find it hard to find modest clothing in retail stores. Polo shirts and plain t-shirts don’t appeal to my daughter. She is more trendy and has her own personal style. And I want to support her, but the trials we go through trying to find skirts and dresses that come more than half-way down her thigh (which, of course, isn’t long enough) are daunting. Rarely, do we finish a shopping trip in under two hours and sometimes that time is spent in only one store. Then, to have someone complain about the dress we spent hours picking out, just makes me want to scream.
So, for my Suite 101 article this week, I focused on LDS Modesty for Girls and wrote about the tips and tricks Beth and I use or have used to make mainstream, trendy clothes more modest. The article also includes a link to a Catholic non-profit called Pure Fashion that teaches teenage girls how to live a standard of modesty using fashion modelling as the teaching tool. I think the program is quite impressive. AND, I found an online directory with a number of links to retail stores that specialize in modest clothing. Some even specifically reference LDS modesty standards. Now, to be honest, some of the clothing in these stores is frumpy and will probably not appeal to many teenagers; however, there is a great selection of wardrobe basics and some fashionable choices. Some of the stores are expensive, but many are quite reasonable.
If you are interested in less provocative clothing for your child, I encourage you to check the article out. Of course, you don’t have to be Mormon to prefer your daughter wear less revealing attire. I just happen to be LDS and, as I mentioned modesty has been in the forefront of late.
Dressing in a way that shows a respect for ourselves and our bodies is something that is important to me. I am not a fashionable dresser; quite the opposite actually. I prefer t-shirts and jeans. If I have to dress the outfit up, I’ll throw on a jacket. But, I think it is important for me to respect the fact that my daughter isn’t me and she doesn’t like how I dress. And so, the quest continues for a simpler shopping experience that will end with my daughter and I both happy with her purchase. I am hopeful that I will be able to fill her dresser with layering tees and modest camis… And I’m really thinking about that fashion show.